I don’t know you, baby girl, but I feel heavy-hearted for you. It’s not heavy-heartedness in the sense of pity because I don’t think you need or want pity. You are tough and strong; I can see it in your eyes. To pity you would be an insult to your character and courage.
This is not pity.
This is heavy-heartedness that comes with deep regret, deep disappointment, deep pain. This is the instinct that compels me to defend you because you’ve gone way too many years without a defender in this world.
This is the weight of responsibility that is, in some ways, not mine to bear. I mean, you are not in these circumstances as a result of my choices. That means this isn’t my responsibility, right?
It seems like a logical conclusion, but my heart beats out the lie of the logic.
You are carrying the weight right now, and you probably feel that you’re carrying it alone. You didn’t ask for this weight. It’s not a result of your own choices. You are burdened with loss upon loss upon loss, and you’re asked to stand beneath a weight that no human should have to bear.
I can’t save you, sweet girl. I can’t be your hero. I can’t fix all that’s broken. For goodness sake, I can’t even wrap my mind around all that is broken in and around your life.
One voice…one steady, droning voice says that can’t is the end. There’s obviously nothing more to say.
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Like a strong and steady steam engine, my heart trudges on through the trauma, through the tears, through the tragedy, and the Engineer whispers into the night “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or discouraged…I am with you wherever you go…”
Do you hear it, beautiful child? Do you hear the rhythm of hope that keeps time beneath the chaos?
I hear it. How then, can I entertain the lies of logic that say can’t wins and I’m not responsible anyway?
If many hands make light work, then why are so many of us standing by while the most precious among us carry it all?
I may not be able to bring a solution, but I am not called to stand by;
I am called to stand by you.